Need help how to combine a 24/7 relationship with BDSM

[Zumiando]

Hello you all!
I am new to the forum and I have been looking all over the internet for people with the same 'problem' I have. I am looking for feedback, solutions, advice or just something to chat about.

So here is the deal, me and my girl are together for almost 2 and a half years now, we live together for two years and we have been into BDSM since a year, 'officially'. When I mean 'officially' I mean that we have been exploring BDSM before we found out that there was a name for that what we do, BDSM.

We are interested in BDSM and like to play, I am her dominant and she is therefor my submissive. We live together so we see each other every morning, every evening, night and late afternoon, and sometimes we even see each other the whole day, depends on work and weekends.
We are not into a 24/7-BDSM relationship but we do live together for 24/7.

Now for me this is really hard to combine, I can not set up certain rules because we don't do 24/7 (like doing things during dinner or sleeping in bed), this gives me a small amount of space to be creative. Also she isn't always in the mood and therefor she sometimes rejects me when I am dominant, which is something a submissive should not do (according to me that is). Also sometimes she is in the mood, but then she tells herself that she is the submissive and therefor should not come to her dominant to ask to play with her, which means I will never know what she wants, because I can play with her on every moment on a 24/7 basis.
When you do not live together, these problems go away, then you know what you can expect from each other when you see each other again (if you told each other that you want to play or not beforehand), then rules can be applied for a certain amount of time until you part ways again.

So, any advice, suggestions or something else?

[Deraj2489]

Start by getting this girl a nice collar. Also, if she is not up for the idea of a 24/7 D/s relationship then you may simply be out of luck. My advice would be mainly, just talk to her. :)

[Zumiando]

Start by getting this girl a nice collar. Also, if she is not up for the idea of a 24/7 D/s relationship then you may simply be out of luck. My advice would be mainly, just talk to her. :)

She already has a collar and enjoys it a lot when she wears it :) . Also we talk alot about it so there is enough communication about the subject (at least once a week if it isn't more). Me myself, I do not like the idea of a 24/7 BDSM relationship as well anyways, problem is, how can you combine living together without having a 24/7 BDSM-relation?

[Deraj2489]

Perhaps you could assign a specific time or day of the week. or just have one or two routines. For example I know a couple who is married and when ever the man snaps his fingers his wife stops what she's doing and gets on the floor on her hands and knees until he tells her to get back up. I'm not sure I completely understand what your question is.

Perhaps you could have like a fee pass . . . or, how can I explain this. Basically agree that you have 1 or 2 hours a week of play that you can use if you like (being the dom) and she has an equal amount of time that she is required to use once a week (sense she is sub)
Say you ask her to play, and she does not want to. If you have not used your time yet, you can tell her you're going to use a half hour of your time and the rule would be she is not allowed to deny you. (obviously there would be exceptions, like 'that time of the month')
The rule about her not being allowed to deny you your time should not be flexible, just a solid no breaking rule. Hopefully if it is not a good time you will just already know your partner well enough and not use your time, because again once you say your using your time, she can not say no.
Adversely if your partner, the sub, fails to use up all her time by the end of the week (again exception being red tide . . . unless your into that sort of thing) either you can add her remaining time to your allowed time for the next week, or, add 10 minutes or a half hour permanently to both times. Can even make it her choice.

Example:
Week 1: Hours 1 / you used 0.5 / she used 1

Week 2: Hours 1 / you used 1 / she used 0.5
punishment, temporary add

week 3: that time . . . dam

week 4: hours 1.5 / you used 0 / she used 1.5

week 5: hours 1 / you used 1 / she used 0
punishment, permanent add

week 6: hours 1.25 (1 hour, 15 minutes) / all hours get used

week 7: hours 1.25

ect.
How does this sound?

[Zumiando]

Sounds like a good idea, I understand that you mean she has to use 1 hour to be sub when she wants to once a week + the dom being allowed 1 hour of time as well, so total 2 hours, where 1 hour she will fill in herself, correct?

[Deraj2489]

Basicly, but I mean it's all up to you. XD

[Zumiando]

ofcourse , just wanted to make sure I knew what you were saying .

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